Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties
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Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties
Sam & Sierra may not be therapists, but they will tell it to you straight (even if they aren’t). Each episode, they answer listeners’ questions with compassion, radical honesty, and all the relationship advice you don’t want—but definitely need. And no, it’s not always “just break up.” (Unless you r...
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Episode 744: How to Maintain No Contact
Sam and Sierra answer a letter form someone who wants to let her mind rest instead of thinking about her ex
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Episode 743: The Line Between Compassion and Self-Abandonment
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose empathy for her ex is maybe making her too understanding
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Episode 742: My Girlfriend Feels Like She's Competing With My Vibrator
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose girlfriend wants sex toys out of the bedroom
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Episode 741: A Life Without Grief is Impossible
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose partner changed his mind about wanting kids
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Episode 740: How To Stay Hopeful When Love Never Stays
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is 30 and has never had a relationship
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Episode 739: Soulmates, Affair Partners, or Just Coworkers?
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose boss cut off their affair after his partner found out about it
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Episode 738: Asking Too Much or Asking the Wrong Person?
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose partner doesn't feel like a partner
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Episode 737: The Breakup Text That Saved Me
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wants to give her self grace for staying in a miserable relationship
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Episode 736: Recovery in a GLP-1 World
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who doesn't want her recovery from an eating disorder to ruin the bachelorette party
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Episode 735: Evicting an Ex From Your Mind
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose ex popped back into her life and tried the exact same sh*t
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Episode 734: Is My Solitude Healing or Hiding?
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is wondering if she's prioritizing swoon-worthy Instagram shots over deeper connections
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Episode 733: Rebuilding Relationship Safety After Uncertainty
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose boyfriend broke up with her and is now pretending like he didn't
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Episode 732: The Gay Panic of It All
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who has a crush on their friend
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Episode 731: My Abusive Ex Broke Up With *Me*
Sam and Sierra anwser a letter from someone who is wondering why they didn't leave their abusive ex
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Episode 730: Don't Confuse Discomfort With Danger
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose relationship OCD is being triggered by her spouse's withdrawal
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Episode 729: Does He Deserve Your Honesty?
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wants to be more vulnerable with his dad
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Episode 728: Coming Out As Non-Binary
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is newly non-binary
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Episode 727: Let's Monetize This Meltdown
Sam and Sierra talk about Sierra's revelation about herself
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Episode 726: How To Live With Your Ex After You Break Up
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is living with her ex for a month after their breakup
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Episode 725: Is This Safe Love or Just Intense Love?
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who would be in love but for all of the triggers
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Episode 725: Is This Safe Love or Just Intense Love?
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who would be in love but for all of the triggers
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Episode 724: My Husband’s Perfectionism Is Driving Me Nuts
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose partner's perfectionism is getting in his own way
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Episode 723: When Success Changes a Friendship
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose friend's comments might be undermining her career
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Episode 722: Making Peace With a Past You Don't Like
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who feels like she wasted 5 years of her life
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Episode 721: Postpartum Exhaustion and Emotional Numbness
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is struggling to feel sappy adoration for her kid when he's awake
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Episode 720: How Do I Recover From a Sudden Breakup?
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose life was upended with zero discussion
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Epsidoe 719: Keeping Community In Capitalism
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is feeling resentful of the family she nannied for
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Episode 718: Cosmically Good Sex or Past Life Connection?
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is between a rock and a hard place, by which we mean two men
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Episode 717: I Bad About Self-Soothing With Casual Sex
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose trying to gain self-confidence after a terrible relationship
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Episode 716: Loving Alcoholic Parents Without Losing Myself
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wants to maintain a normal relationship with her alcoholic parents
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Episode 715: Staying, Leaving, and the Truth in Between
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is stying with her husband out of guilt
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Episode 714: Waiting for Sex Unapologetically
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who doesn't know when to tell the people she's dating that she wants to wait until marriage
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Episode 713: Empathy Without Erasure
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose joy seems to cause her partner pain
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Episode 712: Reclaiming Life, Redefining Stepparent
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose husband wants her to be a more involved stepparent
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Episode 711: Age Gaps, Power, and Perception
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who maybe wants to date someon 8 years younger
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Episode 710: Stuck Between His Messy Divorce and My Mom
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose mom wants her to date someone whose life is a little less messy
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Episode 709: Is Toxic Sex Inherently Hotter and Easier?
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose sex with her toxic ex was more passionate than sex with her wonderful partner
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Episode 708: Staying Present in a Temporary Love
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is having a hard time just enjoying her fling
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Episode 707: What Happens When That Anger is Directed at You?
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose boyfriend can sometimes get angry
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Episode 706: Two Steps Forward, One Step Back
Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who feels like time isn't actually healing all wounds
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