Let's Talk About........With Nicky Perfect
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Let's Talk About........With Nicky Perfect
For over a decade, Nicky Perfect BEM served as a Hostage and Crisis Negotiator, working with people and families in moments of extreme crisis. She went on to become Course Director for the UK’s National Negotiation Course and has trained negotiators and leaders across the world.Alongside her operati...
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118 episodes
Surviving Summer With A Teenager
Your teenager used to want to do everything with you and now they would rather sleep, scroll, or stay in their room and somehow the summer holidays ma...
Parenting Teens Without Losing Yourself
Teenagers can go from cuddles to closed doors so fast it feels personal, and that’s where many parent-teen conversations start to break down. We dig i...
The World Cup, The In-Laws, And The Big Pause Button
There are parts of this podcast where the sound dips a little, this is due to a poor signal whilst recording.
Holidays put relationships under a...
What Changes When You Stop Hiding
In this episode of Let's Talk About, I sit down with Tom Emery, founder of HEX Talent and Development, to explore authenticity, trust, emotional self-...
How To Turn Teen Conflict Into Cooperation
Your teenager didn’t wake up one morning and decide to become impossible. The shift can feel sudden, but there are real reasons behind the door-slammi...
From Trauma To Tools For Healing
Silence can feel polite, but it can also be lethal. We sit down with Heather Rose and talk about the subjects many families tiptoe around: bullying, s...
Living Alongside Grief
Grief is not one feeling, it is a total rewrite of your life, your body, and your relationships. We’re joined by Clare, someone who has lived through...
How To Stay Calm In Difficult Conversations
The fastest way to ruin a difficult conversation is to believe you can control the other person. We talk through what actually happens in the mind and...
An Undercover Cop’s Breaking Point And The Road Back
One morning can split your life in two. Todd joined me to tell the story he carried for years: finding his girlfriend Karen after she died by suicide...
When Grief Gets Quiet
The most painful part of grief can be what happens after the condolences stop. When everyone returns to their routines, the person who lost someone is...
A Crisis Negotiator’s Guide To Talking About Grief
Grief can make you feel like the world should stop, yet everything keeps moving and you’re left trying to keep up. I’m on my own for this one, speakin...
Why Boys Don’t Ask For Help And How Schools Can Change That
Every suicide callout Claire attended as a police officer was male and that pattern haunted her long after the blue lights switched off. Claire Dunn j...
What If Strength Meant Asking For Help
Suicide is still taking too many men, and the scariest part is how often it happens in silence. I sit down with Aldo Kane, former Royal Marines comman...
How Sharing Our Stories Turns Grief Into Connection With John Kammer and Nicky Perfect
This episode is part of Podcasthon 2026, a global podcast movement highlighting the work of charities around the world. For this special release on Fr...
Listening Saves Lives
A quiet smile can hide a collapsing world. Michele D’Souza joins us to share the story of her brother Nick and the hard truth many of us avoid: suicid...
Finding The Light After Suicidal Darkness
A hard truth unlocked everything for us: the second time you ask “Are you really okay?” is when the real answer shows up. Susie shares how she moved f...
How To Talk About Suicide With Care And Courage
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A gentle hello can change the course of a life. That’s the heart of our conversation with therapist Rachel Young, who shares...
A Candid Journey Through Addiction, Recovery, And Building The Modern Men Movement
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A football terrace nickname, TV attention, and nights out might look like belonging—but Lee’s story reveals what happens wh...
Listening That Saves Lives
A quiet shift in someone’s routine can be the loudest alarm. We sit down with retired detective and crisis negotiator Nicky Hurdley to unpack how fron...
From Hostage Negotiation To Lifesaving Conversations
What would you say if someone you love hinted they might not want to stay? We sit down with Sue Williams—former head of the Hostage and Kidnap Units a...
Breaking the Silence: Everyday Lessons from Crisis Negotiation with Danny Kett
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In this episode, Nicky speaks with Danny Kett, a former police negotiator with 30 years of experience, 18 of those in hosta...
Courage Over Silence: Starting the Suicide Conversation
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When Help Feels Like Pressure: One Voice, Safe Space, and Conversations That Save Lives
Host Nicky talks with former...
How to have courageous conversations about suicide
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In this episode Nicky talk to Katey Martin, a police officer and head of counter-terrorism negotiation training in the UK, disc...
EPISODE 94 - Communication in change - episode 2
In this episode Nicky explains how human emotions play a large part in how people respond to change.She goes through the Kubler Ross grief cycle and h...
Episode 93 - Communication in change episode 1
Episode 93 - Communication in change episode 1 by The Communication Coach
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Episode 92 - How to have difficult conversations at Christmas
For many of us Christmas is a time to relax and have fun but for some of us it's a time we spend with people we don't really know or necessarily even...
Episode 91 - How to say what you really feel to your family
In this episode Nicky looks at four areas to help you have those conversations you have been putting off.Emotions - why conversations with our familie...
Episode 90 - How to ask for a payrise or promotion
In this track Nicky looks at two common questions she is asked. She shares the 4 P's;Purpose - what outcome do you want from this conversation and why...
Episode 89 - Values and beliefs
Episode 89 - Values and beliefs by The Communication Coach
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Episode 88- How to have difficult conversations
Episode 88- How to have difficult conversations by The Communication Coach
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Episode 87 - Conversations from the coffee shop Jo Berry
In this episode Nicky chats to Jo Berry. Jo's father, Sir Anthony Berry, was killed by an IRA bomb in 1984.In 2000 Jo met the man who had planted the...
Episode 86- Why Communication Is So Important
In this track Nicky explains why she believes communication is such an important skill and yet one of the core functions of every day that gets forgot...
Episode 85 - How to have difficult conversations and feel heard
In this episode Nicky looks at 5 steps you can take when having difficult conversations and help you to be heard.The last year and this most recent lo...
Episode 84 - How to become more confident in your conversations
In this episode Nicky gives you five tips to help you become more confident in your conversations. Perhaps you struggle to be heard in meetings or at...
Episode 83 - How to negotiate with your kids
In this episode Nicky looks at how we can negotiate with our kids especially in during lockdown.She gives 3 tips; remember our conversation comes from...
Episode 82 - How to have conversations with your family during lockdown
As we enter the second month of this current lockdown, relationships are beginning to breakdown as people struggle with home schooling and working fro...
Episode 81 - Part 5 of my mini series on Self Refelection
Part 5 of this mini course where Nicky gets you to reflect on how you communicate. Listening is at the heart of building relationships, being fully pr...
Episode 80 - Part 4 of my mini series on Self Refelection
In this episode we look at the think, feel, do cognitive behaviour model and how this affects the way we behave and communicate with each other.Nicky...
Episode 79 - Part 3 of my mini series on Self Refelection
In this episode Nicky looks at how fear drives us and causes emotional conversations rather than logical ones. She discusses how your inner critic is...
Episode 78 - Part 2 of my mini series on Self Refelection
This episode is part 2 from a 5 part mini series about self reflection and how to build relationships through communication.In this episode we loo at...