How Not to Screw Up Your Kids
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How Not to Screw Up Your Kids
Hello, I'm psychologist and parenting expert Dr Maryhan and this is How Not To Screw Up Your Kids, the podcast for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a movement to raise confident children who grow up believing in themselves.Follow now for twice weekly episodes...
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434 episodes
Why I'm Only Just Being Diagnosed: Neurodivergence, Perimenopause and Parenting
If you’re a woman in your 40s or 50s who feels like everything has suddenly become harder - the brain fog, the overwhelm, the burnout, the emotional c...
Three Signs Your Daughter Needs an ADHD Test
If your daughter is “fine at school” but falling apart at home - the meltdowns, the morning battles, the homework explosions, the constant need for yo...
ADHD in Girls: Why It's So Often Missed and What Parents Need to Know
If you’re parenting a girl who is anxious, overwhelmed, explosive at home, masking at school, or constantly burning out, this episode will give you an...
My Child Won't Stop Comparing Themselves to Their Sibling
If your child is constantly shouting “It’s not fair!”, measuring every biscuit, bedtime or privilege against their sibling, and turning every moment i...
Who's the Favourite? Birth Order, Sibling Rivalry and Why It Matters
If you’ve ever worried about sibling rivalry, felt guilty about how your attention is divided, or wondered whether your children secretly believe you...
What to Say When Your Child Says 'I'm Not Good Enough'
When your child looks at you and says, “I’m not good enough,” it hits you in the chest. Every instinct you have wants to fix it, to tell them they’re...
My Child is a Perfectionist: When High Standards Become Anxiety
If your child is melting down over tiny mistakes, refusing to start homework, or abandoning activities the moment they stop being “naturally good,” th...
Three Practical Strategies to Help Your Distracted Child Focus
If your child can spend 45 minutes sharpening pencils, rearranging their desk, or “revising” without absorbing a single thing, you are not imagining i...
Why Your Child Can't Concentrate: Focus, Distraction and ADHD with Professor Sam Wass
If you’ve ever wondered why your child can spend 40 minutes talking about Minecraft but can’t concentrate for four minutes on homework, this episode e...
5 Questions to Ask Your Worried Child Tonight
If your child is anxious, you already know how hard evenings can be. You sit beside them wanting desperately to help, but every time you try to reassu...
When Your Child Won't Stop Worrying
If your child is melting down over homework, asking endless “what if” questions, getting mysterious tummy aches, refusing school, withdrawing from act...
Bucket Empyting: One Thing to Say to Your Son Every Day to Build His Confidence
If you’re raising a boy, you already know this: you can believe in him with your whole heart, and still watch him struggle to believe in himself.
How Not to Screw Up Your Kids - A Podcast for Parents from a Child Psychologist Who Gets You
If your child is melting down, shutting down, refusing school, avoiding sleep, snapping back, or clinging to you because something feels “wrong” but t...
Raising Confident Boys
If you’re raising a boy right now, you already know this: the world he’s growing up in is tougher, louder, and more confusing than ever, and the crack...
When Siblings Are Stuck Together
If your children have been at each other all week, this episode will change everything.
I’m diving into one of the biggest sources of family str...
Why Parenting Feels Harder Than Ever
You don’t need more time with your child. You just need five intentional minutes.
And in this episode, I’ll show you exactly why those tiny mome...
Back-Chat, Boundaries, and What Your Child is Really Trying to Tell You
Back‑chat isn’t your child being “difficult” - it’s a message. And in this episode, I’m going to show you how to finally hear it.
If you’re deal...
The Meals That Carry Us Through Hard Seasons with Helen Hopkins
In this episode, you’ll discover a completely different way to think about feeding your family - one that saves you time, money, stress, and emotional...
Good Parents Doubt Themselves Too
We all have an inner critic. Even us parents.
In today’s episode, I explore one of the most overlooked but powerful ways to lighten your emotion...
Homework: Building Persistence, Resilience & Independence
Hands up if you like homework…
Me neither.
But homework isn’t just a task to be completed. It’s a powerful opportunity to build persistenc...
Bucket Emptying: Living with Parental Guilt
In today’s bucket‑emptying episode, I explore what it really means to live with parental guilt - that ever‑present tug that arrives the moment we beco...
What Every Parent Needs to Know About Siblings
Do you have more than one child?
Are they constantly fighting for your time and energy?
So how do you parent siblings?
In today’s ep...
Bucket Emptying: Does Distraction Tame a Tantrum?
In this episode, I will explain the viral “Where’s Jessica?” distraction trend and discover whether it truly helps your child manage big emotions.
Helping Children Manage Uncertainty
In today’s episode, we will explore how to help your child navigate life’s inevitable uncertainties, from exam results and friendship turbulence to sc...
Bucket Emptying: Foundations to Building Confidence
In today’s bucket-emptying episode, you’ll learn the three essential foundations your child needs before confidence can grow.
If you’ve got a ch...
What I Know for Sure About Raising Confident Kids
Today is my birthday, and it’s become a tradition of mine to reflect on life and what I’ve learned. So this year I’m reflecting in public, on the podc...
5 Powerful Reflection Questions to Build Confidence in Children
I talk a lot about confidence, because it’s super important, and it’s something we all struggle with - yes, even us parents!
But a lack of confi...
What to Say When Your Child Feels Anxious
Anxiety is not a one size fits all thing. It can show up in so many different ways, from school refusal to bedtime worries and everything in between.<...
Good Mum, Not Enough Mum: Why It Still Never Feels Like Enough
Spoiler alert: being a mum is hard.
It’s ok to be a good mum and feel like you’re not enough. You might feel like you can’t tell other mums that...
Why Your Child Won't Listen, and One Thing to Try Tonight
Do you ever feel like you are speaking to a brick wall?
Do your kids sometimes ignore you as if you’re invisible?
Do you feel the frustrat...
Bucket Emptying: After School Meltdowns
After school tantrums are anything but random.
Often, they are a sign that your child has been trying super hard to follow the rules and be on t...
The Manosphere and Raising Boys
From Adolescence to Louis Theroux, the manosphere has become a mainstream talking point, and that’s a good thing!
The manosphere is a term assoc...
Bucket Emptying: 5 Mindset Shifts Before Returning to Work
Returning to work is not easy, especially for new parents.
You’ve probably had an extended time off. Your routine is different, your priorities...
Thriving as a Single Parent
There are many myths about single parent families, and I’m telling you they are not true.
The success, wellbeing and happiness of your child has...
Bucket Emptying: 30 Second Reset
Calm down.
Every parent knows these are the worst two words you can ever say to your child in the midst of a meltdown… and we’ve all learnt the...
The 9 Expectation Changes to Supercharge Success
You have high expectations for your kids. Every parent does, and I get it!
But sometimes we can present those expectations in ways that may not...
Bucket Emptying: Grabbing the Opportunity
The UK government has opened a public consultation on a potential social media ban for under 16 year olds, and this creates a huge opportunity for us....
9 Modelled Bevahiours Boosting Academic Success, Confidence & Friendships
If you have not yet watched American skier Eileen Gu’s interview following her silver medal at the recent Winter Olympics, click the link below, becau...
Bucket Emptying: Parenting in Public
Children should be seen and not heard. Do you agree?
We’ve all heard that expression, and we were all probably told this by our own parents! But...
Managing Emotional Outbursts
Outbursts, tantrums, meltdowns… whatever you call them, they’re not fun!
But your kids are not hardwired to deal with their emotions, it’s a ski...